Okay xoxo 1st and foremost you didn’t address the ‘taming the bad boy’ issue so I take that to be an admission of attraction. I still insist you have commitment issues but that is gist for another day.
Truth is all free agents we men hit have no direct effect with the feelings we have for our chicks it’s just like the jobs we do many of us hate it but we go to work anyway,we are just biult that way, most times it's just a routine. So the basic questions to be asked are:
(i)Does it affect how my man feels about me?
(ii)Does it in anyway affect our love life?
(iii)Does it in anyway interrupt his affection for me?
If you answer no to all these questions by all means read on, however if you answered yes to as little as 1 of them It's not a relationship worth staying in.
Women naturally live in a world of make-believe wanting a rich dude to get them nice red-shoes with red soles et al, ala happily ever after. Mistakes women often make is equaling a guy’s affection with money. You don't love him you love his money! ᵔ.ᵔ For example If you take a chick out with naira equivalent of money you would give a woman of easy virtue, she won’t mind even if she knows your motive is just to hit it and will rather appreciate that than be straight forward, give her cash and say” hey can I get laid?”
I repeat its only sex! And it’s no reason to waste a wonderful relationship, tried and tested overtime because of some meaningless recreation. You don't leave a Yes cheating Yes commitment rel. for a No cheating No commitment one or worse Yes cheating No commitment relationship.
The truth you never hear from women is that after a woman leaves a man for another man it dawns on her that she may never get a guy who won't cheat and then she regrets why she dumped her great bf in the 1st place but because you chicks are so used to telling yourselves lies to the point where you begin to believe your own lie is the truth you choose instead to wallow in your world of denial.
After you leave your seemingly great guy you only end up an easy lay cos you (may or may not know it) end up being someone's side chick or worse still friend with benefit till maybe 35, then you grow passed outrageously sexy to unbelievably desperate, wahala go come enter the whole equation, you’d then find them calling phone numbers of dudes in the friend zone or worse resort to online dating. Then people would say “xoxo you just got Goldied!” ROTFL. O_o
On a serious note I must add, honestly our great grandmas were super smart because they understood this simple principles 'we seemingly advanced beings' can't seem to grasp. This is in no way saying you should permit groupies in your bed oO and I’m not in any way implying that its okay for guys to change girls randomly like football clubs. But give thought to your long term happiness.
Because you are the predictable die-hard feminist that you are let me quickly add that this principle doesn’t apply to chicks. I'm sorry to say but women aren’t allowed to cheat. It isn't inequality it’s innate. For example it’s the way my dad overprotected my sisters while growing up. He didn't want men hitting his daughters the way he hit d azz’s of other daughters of eve (if he suceeded is another topic). That mother hen approach my dear is why you can’t hit it randomly (except of course you won’t mind being the topic over bottles of cold beer or having your bizness in d streets)
Before you get sentimental, throwing tantrums and having your hormones all over the place remember that men are not like women that analyze and overanalyze every situation, the what's, if's, why's or how's. We either want you or we don’t. We don’t wait 3weeks/3months/3 dates to hit it just to look good/ decent/ follow rules, when we know in the 1st 30seconds. If we want to hit it we just hit it. We keep it short concise and sweet!
Another thing is please chicks stop being rigid and stop hoarding yourself from your man, what you refuse to give your man many free agents are more than generously willing to share *evil grin*
My general appeal is to the chicks who harass our faces each day with those massive double ‘D’ breastisies and outrageous backsides bouncing from those pencil jeans like jelly fish but get offended when during a conversation that's all we stare at and/or want to hit! Why would you market what we can't sample? And BTW xoxo that is some amazing azz you got. (•͡.̮ •͡ )
Lastly xoxo your perception doesn't have to match my reality. It don't matter what you like, want, presume, all that matters is the reality, either you live with it or you don’t. E.g. nice girls often meet men who are physically and emotionaly unavailable that's why it seems w***s are winning but its 2012 and yes they are! Also It’s a reality that most runs girls marry well, is it fair? No! Does that make it right? No! But is it reality? Yes! Separate reality from mere fantasy my dear.
Bottom line is chicks just love to be lied to square and fair. In short quote me “The most workable relationships are the ones that have the best liars or accept the best lies as reality”.